{"id":594,"date":"2016-02-09T18:11:51","date_gmt":"2016-02-09T18:11:51","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/weddingbranch.co.uk\/news\/?p=594"},"modified":"2016-01-30T18:18:31","modified_gmt":"2016-01-30T18:18:31","slug":"father-of-the-bride-speech","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/weddingbranch.co.uk\/news\/father-of-the-bride-speech\/","title":{"rendered":"Father of the bride speech"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Traditionally, at the reception, the bride\u2019s father is the first one to make a speech<\/a> to the wedding guests. Closely followed by the best man and groom, the father of the bride is usually seen as a bit of a warm-up act, and something to be endured rather than enjoyed. However, with a little effort you can make sure your moment in the spotlight is something to be remembered.<\/span><\/p>\n

What to include in your speech?<\/span><\/p>\n

Whether you intend to make it short and sweet, or to really reap the benefits of the spotlight, your speech will need to contain some basic elements if it is to be in keeping with tradition.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n

The intro<\/span><\/p>\n

You need to introduce yourself, but it doesn\u2019t have to be reminiscent of an AA meeting. Tell them your name and maybe crack a small joke to make yourself feel relaxed.<\/span><\/p>\n

The welcome<\/span><\/p>\n

Make a formal welcome to everyone, and thank them for coming. Try to mention, in particular, the bride\u2019s mother and the groom\u2019s parents too.<\/span><\/p>\n

Your daughter<\/span><\/p>\n

She\u2019s made you pay for it, and now\u2019s your chance to get a little of your own back on her! Recall a funny anecdote from her youth, or simply tell her how proud you are of the woman she\u2019s become.<\/span><\/p>\n

Your son-in-law<\/span><\/p>\n

Formally welcome the groom to your family, in any way you feel appropriate. You can mention how you felt about him when you first met him, or a moment when you\u2019ve been particularly glad he\u2019s around.<\/span><\/p>\n

Parting wisdom<\/span><\/p>\n

As the elder speaker at the wedding, you should impart some of your wisdom to the happy couple about maintaining a healthy marriage or living a happy life. This is also a good place to throw in some jokes about wives, weddings or life in general, just as long as it doesn\u2019t upset your wife!<\/span><\/p>\n

The toast<\/span><\/p>\n

Finish up by asking everyone to stand and raise a glass to the happy couple. No doubt, the best man will do something similar at the end of his speech too, but it\u2019s the traditional way to close yours.<\/span><\/p>\n

Top tips for making it fun<\/span><\/p>\n

The father of the bride might be a mature gentleman, but that doesn\u2019t mean your speech has to be dull. Here are some top tips to make it as enjoyable as possible for everyone involved\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

Timing is everything<\/span><\/p>\n

At many weddings, fathers of brides have been known to drone on for some time, and that\u2019s only fair. However, to keep things fun, engaging and avoiding Aunty Doreen falling asleep in her soup, aim for a speech that lasts around six to seven minutes in total. Read your speech through at your normal speaking pace to gauge how long this really is.<\/span><\/p>\n

Keep it clean<\/span><\/p>\n

Jokes are a great way to break the ice and loosen up the crowd, but don\u2019t be too focused on being funny. You\u2019re the elder statesman of the speakers today, so you can afford to be a bit more conservative in your words. That doesn\u2019t mean you have to be full though; a few jibes at the expense of the wedding or your daughter\u2019s love of spending money are fine, just don\u2019t go too close to the bone. Leave it to the best man to really roast up the groom, and focus on welcoming your new son-in-law to the family and toasting the happy couple.<\/span><\/p>\n

Hold on to your emotions<\/span><\/p>\n

This is such a big occasion for you and all your family, it can be easy to get caught up in the emotion of it all. Do you best to keep things light and happy, as nobody likes to see a grown man in tears. If there are some personal things you would like to say to your daughter, but don\u2019t want to include in your speech, write them down for her to read on the day instead.<\/span><\/p>\n

The last word<\/span><\/p>\n

Ask any public speaker what their biggest fear is, and they\u2019ll pretty much always say it\u2019s forgetting where they are in their wedding speech<\/a>. Fumbling over your words and getting a bit lost is nothing to be ashamed of, provided you can make a quick recovery and get back on track okay. Take your speech on cue cards with bullet-pointed reminders of what you want to talk about, rather than printing it all out in full. This will give you a more natural delivery, and will save you having to read through several paragraphs to find your place after getting lost.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you do get stuck, use a moment to clear your throat, take a drink of water or give your daughter a kiss. These moments might seem a lifetime to you, but will feel like a natural pause to your audience, and will give you the breathing space you need to get things back on track. Take your time, don\u2019t panic and try to enjoy your moment of fame.<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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