Even though it\u2019s all out of the goodness of their hearts, the Mother of the bride and the mother of the groom can get a little too involved in the Wedding. Here are a few things that they definitely shouldn\u2019t be doing \u2013 where you know they\u2019ve crossed a line\u2026<\/p>\n
Obviously, with their child getting married, both sets of mothers are bound to get excited. Your diaries will be filling up with lunch dates with you and your mother, or you and your groom\u2019s mum where every single thing you could possibly talk about when it comes to weddings, will be mentioned.<\/p>\n
It’s good to see brides accepting help from others so they get a bit of stress relief, but don\u2019t let that mean that no part or no detail of your wedding is planned by you. It\u2019s not uncommon to see that motherly tendency of \u2018taking over\u2019 \u2013 whether subtle or slightly more aggressive \u2013 so be warned. If you want something done in that way, don\u2019t let your mother\u2019s words sway you. Your day, your way \u2013 and that\u2019s that.<\/p>\n
As we said, by no means refuse ALL the help the offer, because at the end of the day, it\u2019s saving you a job and it\u2019s saving you time. But when delegating wedding duties around your friends and family members, make sure that both you and the recipient are realistic in the amount they are taking on.<\/p>\n
No matter how eager and keen your mother-in-law may sound about taking on 12\/20 jobs you\u2019ve got on that to-do list, remember that she still is human, and her eager excitement for the wedding plans<\/a> may wear out before she\u2019s even finished her second task of writing out all the place cards. At that point, you won\u2019t even DARE to mention the handmade favours she agreed to do\u2026<\/p>\n It\u2019s a common stereotype of mother-in-laws \u2013 both of the bride and the groom \u2013 that they can be quite\u2026 disapproving\u2026 of everything. Of course, we don\u2019t believe in that stereotype, but there might be times where you can understand where that common image of mother-in-laws have come from.<\/p>\n Taking her along to your wedding dress fitting<\/a> can quickly turn from a lovely and thoughtful idea, to maybe changing the aim of the shopping trip to buying an axe, and a shovel. And her constant comments about your hubby-to-be not making enough effort? Just no. If this is happening to you, calmly let her know what she is saying is upsetting you, and most importantly, don\u2019t let it affect you!<\/p>\n Wear White<\/p>\n Oh come on! This is number one of the wedding rule book, isn\u2019t it? If wedding guests aren\u2019t allowed to wear white, neither should your mum. This is the point when the question will be raised, by you, by your groom, and by everyone else: \u201cIs she pretending it\u2019s her wedding?\u201d.<\/p>\n We\u2019re almost sure your mum would think this one through, but do ask her what she\u2019s wearing before the wedding day actually comes.<\/p>\n Match with the bridesmaids<\/p>\n On a similar note, unless you\u2019ve actually specified for her to do so, if your mum or mum-in-law is deliberately matching her outfits to your bridesmaids \u2013 essentially, assigning herself as an extra bridesmaids\u2013 that\u2019s another line crossed!<\/p>\n If she wants to make some kind of link to the bridal party, suggest the idea of a corsage in the same colour as the bridesmaid dresses<\/a>. It would be a really nice touch for the photographs, and make your mum a little bit happier. But remember, make sure that both sets of mothers go with this idea so that one isn\u2019t left out.<\/p>\n From offering the bride advice and knowing exactly how to calm you down, to readjusting that strand of hair that\u2019s a little out of place after you\u2019ve finished getting ready, your mum should be there for you on your wedding morning! She shouldn\u2019t show up late and think you won\u2019t notice.<\/p>\n That goes for the rest of the wedding planning process, too \u2013 all the arranged appointments, lunch-time meet ups to talk about table plans, and so on. You should never underestimate the usefulness of a mum around your wedding time, and neither should she!<\/p>\n Wearing white on the day is one thing, but taking complete control of everything that\u2019s going on, pointing out every little detail she helped with, and not letting the bride or groom get a word on their wedding day is on another level! Either the excitement of the wedding has got a little too much for her or her glass is getting topped up a little too often, either way, there comes a point when it\u2019s acceptable to just say \u2018STOP\u2019. I mean, she didn\u2019t even help with that bunting!<\/p>\n To be honest, we\u2019re sure that you won\u2019t have to deal with any of these extremes, but you might witness a few hints of this kind of \u2018Mumzilla\u2019 mode. Just always be careful how you approach it and what you say. Want more advice on that?<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Even though it\u2019s all out of the goodness of their hearts, the Mother of the bride and the mother of the groom can get a little too involved in the Wedding. Here are a few things that they definitely shouldn\u2019t … Continue reading